by Jenai Lane, Founder of Spirit Coach® Training
In looking back on our lives, we carry a lot of self-blame, guilt, and thoughts of “could’ve, would’ve, should’ve” done this, that, or the other thing. In retrospect, we can almost always think of ways we could have handled any given situation better. And yet, in the moment, it was the best choice we could make at that time. Of course, hindsight offers us many options. This is what learning from our experiences is about. In fact, there are no mistakes, only lessons to learn.
The problem with life’s great lessons is that our mistakes become an impediment if we let them. You may understand in retrospect that you had a choice and you chose the wrong one. This becomes something we hang onto, and when we hang onto the past, it affects us in the present. We use these wrong choices as a reason to beat ourselves up. Unfortunately, this keeps us locked into a cycle of violence against ourselves. This will continually drain our energy and result in a much lower vibration level than is healthy for us.
It is important to know that, when we make mistakes in the past, we have the opportunity to make different choices in the present. This does not mean that we do not make amends for our wrongdoings. We do, but then we must let go of them. If we choose to hang onto them, we are in danger of recreating them in the future. Letting go requires forgiving ourselves and others because forgiveness is what ultimately releases us from our past. Forgiveness (for give) is for you to give to yourself. It has nothing to do with the person that you are forgiving; it is completely and utterly for you. Forgiveness is freedom, liberating us to vibrate at much higher levels of peace and joy.
FIVE STEPS TO FORGIVENESS
1. Awareness. Becoming aware or conscious that forgiveness is freedom and that, to be free, you must forgive yourself, and then others.
2. Release. Release all energy necessary for you to forgive. Even if at this point you cannot forgive yourself or another, you can ask your spirit and Creator to assist you in releasing any energy that keeps you tied to the past.
3. Learn. Learn from your experience. Once you begin to understand what the lesson is that you can take away from your experience, you begin to create forgiveness.
4. Allow. Allow yourself to have forgiveness. When you are able to acknowledge you deserve forgiveness, then you allow yourself to have it for you, and then for another.
5. Be. Be forgiveness. Once you can completely forgive yourself, you can then be forgiving of others and you can ultimately be free.
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